I really really want to be a person who loves to exercise and jumps out of bed every morning ready to get my body in shape and prepare for my day. But as much as I want to be that person, I am the person who eats supper and then says “I really should have exercised before supper because now it’s time to get ready for bed.” I mean. I struggle. I intend to be diligent this time, but my good intentions just aren’t good enough. I still need to lose 10 pounds.
What is it for you? What are you really good at intending but not so good at actually doing? Calling a friend you haven’t seen in a while. Watching less mindless video content. Eating better. Swearing less. Saving more money. Spending less money. Praying. Reading the Bible. …. What is it, my friend?
If you’re like me, it’s several things. I feel like most of us are pretty good at intending good things. It’s pretty easy to intend. And it sounds really good too.
Coming off of our month focused on our hearts and the core beliefs that we hold within them, intention is a perfect topic. When I first started thinking about this and how we can flesh it out in relation to our communication/relationships/life, I was struck by how crippled we are by all of the undone “intentions” that we have in our lives.
Our communication is fraught with unmet intentions, and the very reason for this is that we just don’t, won’t, or can’t make ourselves face the reality of all that is wrong with how we interact with others, with how we think about others. What about the times that you are nice but not kind. The times you say the right thing but feel the opposite. The times you should say or do something and you pretend that you weren’t aware or that it’s not your place.
Simply put, we have to stop intending to love others and start truly loving them. We have to stop intending to speak honorably and start doing it. We have to stop intending to be more positive and start being it. We have to stop intending to quit gossiping and quit gossiping. We have to stop intending to control our anger and start controlling it. We have to stop merely intending and start DOING.
Friend, I hope that in some way I am stepping on your toes. Hard on them. This month, let’s focus our attention on intention and resolve to do far more than just intend.
Connie Benoit Sirois
Author | Speaker | Trainer
We are called to love others as ourselves. Our communication gives us continual opportunities to do this. We should never miss a chance to honor others. I’d love for you to read about my mission.
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