Offense. Do you take offense at things?
Some of us have a lot of time on our hands right now. We aren’t doing our normal activities, and our kids’ schedules are clear too. We’re finding things to do around our houses and asking for TV show, movie, and book recommendations on our social feeds. It’s kind of like an unexpected, maybe un-welcomed, “staycation.”
For others of us, those in the medical professions or involved in “essential services,” we have more physical and mental work than we wish to have to handle. We are inundated and hoping to stay healthy. It’s challenging for sure.
You likely find yourself somewhere along the spectrum of these new realities. Maybe you are one or the other, or maybe you’re like me and somewhere in the middle of that.
No matter the camp we’re in, we are all likely just a bit out of sorts. It’s hard not to be in such surreal times.
We’re stuck, and we’re turning to our social feeds to keep us occupied and feeling connected. We’re sharing so much more than we might have shared before.
I’ve posted myself some, but I’ve mostly been lurking. Reading. Watching the banter. As a communication person, I’m nerdy about such things.
What we say affects people. You don’t have to go far on your social feed to see comments that show people’s passionate agreement with someone else’s post. And you also don’t have to go very far to see the offended. Have you been offended?
People saying stay at home and others quipping back with “I have to go to work. I’m not off like the rest of you” … or a more verbally abusive form of that. People having get togethers, and others sharing screen shots and chastising the “idiots” … or a worse word. People sharing and sharing and sharing, and people responding and responding and responding.
And that’s only the few who are willing to say something publicly. Many more are complaining in private or running thoughts through their minds that they know they can’t share. Trust me, there are many more offended people than those responding on social.
It’s not healthy. It grooves the negative in our minds. Put on repeat, this begins to have palpable effects on emotional, mental, and physical wellbeing.
Friends, let’s agree to quit getting offended by what other people post. Why let it offend you? Is it about you? Probably not. And if you’re getting offended, then it could be telling you something. How we respond to others is a direct reflection of something in ourselves. Instead of resting in offense, take time to ask yourself why you’re responding in that way. Addressing the response is more helpful than spewing the response.
Can we be un-offended? YES. A resounding YES. You can be un-offended by what others say. You can even be un-offended by what others say about you directly. You have so much more power than you are realizing. Our communicative abilities aren’t just about what we do outwardly. They are also about our internal, private, intimate self-communication. You have control over this. Take it.
Proverbs 4:23 (NIV) “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”
Connie Benoit Sirois
Author | Speaker | Trainer
We are called to love others as ourselves. Our communication gives us continual opportunities to do this. We should never miss a chance to honor others. I’d love for you to read about my mission.
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